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For many of us growing up, sex education was pretty abysmal – especially if you went to schools in pakistan.

If you went to school in the pakistan, it’s likely you were taught how to say no to sex. Perhaps you gained a cursory knowledge of the pubescent body, but often little else. You could definitely argue that abstinence programs just aren’t enough.Read on to learn 12 things you probably didn’t learn in sex ed but you really need to know.

What is sex?

You may have learned that, technically speaking, sex involves penile-vaginal penetration. But that’s barely scratching the surface. There are various forms of sexual acts that don’t fall under the “penetrative sex” umbrella. This includes:

  • oral sex
  • anal sex
  • masturbation (solo or mutual)
  • hand or finger jobs
  • sex with toys (with or without penetration)
  • BDSM

Some people even include kissing as a part of their definition! But in order to partake in other sexual acts (or not), it’s important to know how else sex can be defined.

 

Anatomy!

Formal sex education usually covers the basics of male anatomy: the penis, the testicles. But hold up — what about the women?! While sex ed may touch on the ovaries, you’ll learn very little about the vagina, clitoris, vulva, anus, breasts and nipples, or other sexual areas.

Speaking of female genitalia …

The clitoris is huge and runs from the vulva’s opening to the vagina. When most people think of the clitoris, though, they think of the clitoral glans — the pea-sized “little hill.”

Believe it or not, the clitoris and the penis are one and the same in foetuses until they differentiate to female or male sex organs. The majority of the nerve endings found in the very sensitive head of the penis wind up concentrated in the clitoris. This tiny part of the female body has over 8,000 nerve endings.

 

Don’t Follow the Big “O”:

In school and elsewhere, it’s often taught that there’s a linear progression during sex with orgasm being the end goal. In reality, the sexual progression is more cyclical or, at least, non-linear.

Basicallywomen are into sex for closeness or an emotional bond more than just an orgasm. So, try to savour every moment.

 

Porn isn’t realistic:

 

Mastrubation is Awesome:

Masturbation can be really fun! It can be good for your health as it can potentially help you sleep, relieve pain, and reduce stress, among other things.

One of the biggest perks of masturbation is learning what you like and don’t like sexually. It makes it a lot easier to communicate those things to your partner when you’re able to explore your sexuality on your own.
Pain isn’t normal:
It’s not abnormal for women to believe that sex is supposed to hurt or be uncomfortable. When we’re being taught sex ed in school, we’re told that losing our virginity hurts. Again, not always true — it just depends on who you are.Pain during sexual activity is usually a sign that something isn’t right — unless you’re intentionally inflicting it through a sexual act you’ve both given consent on! It could be due to a health condition, a lack of lubrication, a position, or a number of other things.Make sure you troubleshoot this by communicating with your partner so you can both enjoy what’s going on. If that doesn’t work, speak with your doctor or visit an education-based sex shop for help.

 

Gender and sexual orientation are different:

If sex educators taught anything about gender identity or sexual orientation, it’s likely they wrongly said the two are connected.

Sexual orientation is about who you generally find sexually attractive. Affectional orientation, another factor sex ed probably didn’t teach, is who you fall in love with — which can be totally different.

On the contrary, gender identity is what a person perceives their gender is, and can be different than the one assigned to them at birth. Gender expression is how that person may (or may not) show their gender through clothing, accessories, mannerisms, and more.

 

Bottom Line:

We all could learn a little more about how to communicate, offer empathy to our fellow humans, and set clearer boundaries.

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